... And they lived happily ever after.
Or so they say in the story books, they forget to mention the work that needs to go into the marriage to make it happily ever after. That is why my friend I will tell you.
I don't know if anyone can relate, or remembers, but the day after I graduated high school, I didn't know what to do, it was as if no one could tell me what to do, when to go to school, what to study, how to dress, what I should look like to 'fit it'. I was on my own, lost in reality. Or so I thought, Reality really hits when you get back from your honeymoon, you are sick, you don't know what is going on with your own body, and you don't go to the doctor because you are not insured anymore, at least after high school I was still on my parents insurance. Reality is when you work full time or close to, and you don't get to spend those paychecks on a new pair of running shoes, or new jeans that you really need because your's have holes in the bum. You don't even see the money your even making, it's going into an account that you have no access to, except to deposit checks and see the numbers rise and fall with the monthly expenses. This is what I call bliss.
Married life is an experience like no other. It is wonderful, and hard work. "No one ever said it would be easy, only that it would be worth it," that quote is how to express how I feel about marriage. I love it, it is wonderful, and worth every bit of hard work that has to go into it, because you are with the one you love, not just till death, but FOREVER!! That is a long time if you think about it.
Nathan is great, there are times that I just want him to shut up, if you can believe it he does talk quite a bit, but there are other days when I just can't seem to get enough of him. Our schedules are pretty nice right now, as we wait to get into medical school. We both start early in the morning with classes, I go to work at 10 am, and get off at 6 pm. We are able to both be home in the evenings, to study together, eat dinner as our little family, and talk about our day and to just be in each others company. It is wonderful, though I am not sure how much longer that will last, so I am going to have to enjoy it and soak in every moment we can enjoy.
I am learning a lot from being married just this short time. Nathan is a wonderful example to me, and I know I am teaching him alot. He is learning what a clean freak I am with my kitchen, and that I hate it when dishes are dirty. He is learning how to push my buttons, and to make up for it when he goes too far. I am learning to ignore him at times, and love him always.
Life is great, no it is not easy. I am working harder than I have in a while, and I know it will be well worth it very soon. I love nathan, he is good to me. Though our date night tonight was cut super short because he has his date with his brothers on halo, but thats okay. I will forgive Robert and Jacob for now ;).
Until next time... The happily ever after does exist just not as easy as it sounds.
not gonna lie.. that sounds miserable. there's a lot of things in there that really bothered me. maybe you should see a marriage counselor? i don't think "button pushing" and cutting dates short is a healthy marriage practice. maybe getting things straightened out rather than just "dealing with it" might help.. you don't sound too happy..
ReplyDeleteha ha ha sounds exactly like life :) my date nights get cut short because of x box all the time but you find other things to do meanwhile :) which is why i blog and I watch shows online :) to the person above me. I don't know if you're married but in the beginning it's all about pushing buttons, and learning how to make up for it. it's sad but true. "dealing" is what you have to do at first until you get used to things you can't control. it's hard. but it's so amazingly worth it. even if they do drive you crazy :)
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ReplyDeleteAfter 9 years you will find that it doesn't get any easier but that it is definitely is worth it. I can say after 5 kids and all of this time I wouldn't change it for anything. Enjoy the time you have together and make sure that you make the most of it. We are proud of both of you and wish the best for your marriage. As for the first comment, you obviously don't understand being a newlywed. I think it was that way for most of us, at sometime we realize that marriage isn't just bliss but a challenge also! But as the blog says "I never said it would be easy, I only said it would be worth it." --Jeremy